MMS 1- IT ALL STARTS WITH YOU BOO

Psalm 121: 4-5 NLT

Indeed, he who watches over Israel never slumbers or sleeps. The LORD himself watches over you!

Proverbs 3:5-6 NLT

Trust in the Lord with all your heart;
    do not depend on your own understanding.
Seek his will in all you do,
    and he will show you which path to take.

In relationship, your partner will not always say the right things to comfort you or do the right things to reassure you and pull you out of a rut. It’s great that they learn how to love you as best as they can, but you honestly can’t rely on them to do it all. That’s too much of an expectation to place on someone who did not create your heart. That’s why a relationship with Jesus is crucial. He touches and heals the parts of your heart that your partner can’t ever say the right things to fix. He makes us whole when we are hurting, stressed, confused, frustrated and crippled with doubt. Your partner should do their best, but they can only do as much as is humanly possible until you start feeling frustrated because it won’t be exactly what you need. It’s even more frustrating when you think to yourself “they are supposed to know me the best and understand me so why aren’t they making me feel better?”. Today’s post is to remind you that your partner is human. God knows you more than anyone and knows what you need even when you don’t. He knows how to reach your heart and mind and pull out the pain and frustration and replace it with joy and peace. That’s something that no one else can do. Your relationship with your partner will be better because of your relationship with God. You won’t get frustrated with your boo because they aren’t saying the right things all the time. You will be refreshed in God’s presence and you can take that joy and peace into your relationship. So now imagine both partners are in the habit of seeking God in a hard time and really at all times. There would be less frustration (not zero because you know how it is sometimes) and unmet expectations. Jesus in everything makes everything better.

Side note: As important as it is not to expect what only God can provide from your partner, if like me, you require words of affirmation often to feel loved and your partner is probably not wired to easily affirm you in that way I think it’s absolutely okay to have a conversation with them about what you need to feel loved. Your relationship is as good as you make it and that involves sacrificing sometimes to meet each other’s needs because you love them. As long as those sacrifices are well within the borders of keeping yourselves pure in God’s eyes of course.

1 Peter 5:7 NLT Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.